What is School Refusal in Teens?

“I don’t want to go to school! You can’t make me!”
Those are all too familiar words for most parents who have children who dislike school or don’t want to go for other reasons. For some, this issue can be solved by getting teens involved in extracurricular activities that they are passionate about. For some parents, however, teens who refuse to attend school are actually experiencing a serious issue called school refusal.

What is school refusal?

School refusal occurs when a child (or teen) refuses to go to school for emotional reasons. The severity of school refusal can vary from a teen complaining about school every so often to missing days, or even weeks of school. School refusal is oftentimes associated with anxiety and depression, which may be the underlying causes of your teen not wanting to go to school.

School refusal vs. truancy

Knowing the difference between school refusal and truancy is essential in preventing further harm to your teen’s future emotional and educational welfare. Teens experiencing school refusal will feel severe emotional distress about going to school. They may feel anxious, depressed, or throw temper tantrums about going to school. If your teen has school refusal, you will be are aware of your teen’s absence from school because they’ll be begging you not to make them go. Truants, however, don’t fear going to school and keep their absences a secret. Also, teens with school refusal willingly do schoolwork at home, whereas truants are not interested in schoolwork and don’t care about meeting academic or behavioral standards. Knowing these differences means getting help from your teen if they are having problems with school refusal, rather than your run of the mill truancy.

Underlying causes

Teens experiencing school refusal may have specific characteristics causing them to not want to go to school. These include:

  • Separation Anxiety: Your teen may be worried about your safety and fear something bad will happen to you.
  • Social Anxiety: Your teen may feel anxiety while interacting with his or her peers and teachers.
  • Depression: If your teen is depressed, they may also experience anxiety. Symptoms of depression include sadness, lack of motivation and sleep difficulties.
  • Bullying: Your teen may fear being bullied at school. They may be physically threatened by other teens or left out of social groups.

Helping your teen

1) Talk to your teen about what is causing their issue.  Make sure to be asking open-ended questions, so they can explain their situation thoroughly. You may also want to talk to your teen’s teachers because they might know things your teen will never tell you.
2) Be supportive of your teen and use positive incentives. Recognize the little things. This is important for your teen’s feeling of empowerment and self worth.
3) If all else fails, get professional help. Go to a therapist or enroll your teen in a program that can help them. One option is wilderness therapy. Trails Carolina is a wilderness therapy program that can help your teen experiencing school refusal get back on the right track.
For more information, contact Trails Carolina at 800-975-7303.

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