Not Just Another Teen Movie: How To Handle Teen Partying

If your teen is going to their friend’s house, it’s likely that they’ll do more than watch movies and gossip. Instead of straight up telling you that they’re going to a party, they’ll tell you a lie about the night in they had with their friends. It’s only when that lie turns into something dangerous that you’ll find out that they were actually partaking in teen partying.

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Teens crave the social atmosphere teen partying provides. It may be very important to them, and it’s hard to take something like that away from your teen. That’s why it’s important to set up enforceable limits for your teen. The worst thing you can do is set strict rules for them that are completely unreasonable. If you completely forbid them from going out and having fun with their friends, you’re damaging your relationship with them and their social life. Setting rules that are reasonable and easy to follow can stop your teen from getting into trouble.

Where’s the party happening?

If your teen is planning on going somewhere to hang out with their friends, the first thing you need to do is make sure that there will be adult supervision. Ask your teen which friend’s house they are going to. Then, call their parents. Yes, it may be awkward, but it’s necessary for you to find out if your teen has told you a lie about where they are going. You don’t want your life to become a teen movie, dealing with a situation where teen partying occurs once parents are out of town. Call with the intention of offering something for the party. For example, say, “I heard you were inviting some of Johnny’s friends over for a get together. That’s great! Can I send Suzy with something?” That way, you’re not interrogating the other parents and unintentionally damaging your relationship with your teen.

Setting guidelines

Once you know exactly where the party is happening, talk to your teen about specific rules you’d like them to follow. Talk to your teen about how they are getting to the party and when they are planning on returning. Stay awake until your teen comes home from the party. That way you can know if your teen has been drinking or doing drugs. If your teen is leaving the party to go somewhere else, have them call you.

If teen partying gets out of hand

If teen partying is spiraling out of control for your child, you might want to consider Trails Carolina. Trails Carolina is a wilderness therapy program for teens ages 10-17 struggling with substance abuse issues, depression, anxiety, and other difficulties.
For more information about Trails Carolina, please call 800-975-7303.

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Great life changing experience for our son. After becoming addicted to gaming during covid he was very depressed. At Trails he experienced the wilderness, Science Steve, learning survival skills and top notch therapy and support etc… I highly recommend! This gave our son and our family a renewed family bond full of love and excitement about his bright future.

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