Affirming Your Child’s Identity: Trails Primary Therapist Explains Gender Dysphoria

Imagine waking up and looking in the mirror to see a body that you don’t belong in. This is not the beginning of a science fiction film. This is real life and it happens every day for people with gender dysphoria who have not fully transitioned into the gender they align with.

What is gender dysphoria?

Gender dysphoria, which used to be known as “gender identity disorder”, is the general term for any individual who is discontent with their assigned gender at birth. It is not the same as “gender non-conformity” which relates to behaving in a way that is perceived as different from cultural norms of a specific gender. For example, if your female child can be fits the stereotypical description of a “tomboy”, that might be considered gender non-conforming. If she says that she is actually a boy and would prefer to use he/him/his pronouns, they may be gender dysphoric (or transgender). gender dysphoria

Accepting and affirming your child’s identity

For parents of a child who is persistent, consistent, and insistent that they are the opposite gender, your child is most likely gender dysphoric. Parents of children who continue to insist that they are the opposite gender may worry that this is a phase. However, the best thing you can do in this situation is to accept your child for who they are.
Not affirming your child’s chosen identity can be extremely harmful. Transgender youth who are not accepted by their family members or friends are more likely to self harm and take their own lives.  They are also likely to have high rates of depression and anxiety. On the other hand, those who are affirmed by their parents are 82 percent less likely to attempt to take their life. In fact, transgender teens who are supported by their parents have the same depression and anxiety rates as the rest of the teen population.

Options for Parents

Every parent wants to see their child comfortable and confident in who they are. That’s why starting with a social transition for your gender dysphoric child is often the best first step.
The social transition, in which your child will start to dress and identify as their chosen gender, is completely reversible. It’s a good way to see how your child feels when given the opportunity to appear in public as who they believe to be their true selves. For many parents whose children have undergone a social transition, there is a night and day difference between the way their child behaved before the transition and afterwards. Most have shared with me that their child underwent a drastic transformation from a sad, angry child to a happy, confident child.

Possible Course of Action

If the social transition is not successful and your child decides that it was just a phase, they can go back to dressing as their birth assigned gender. However, if your child really comes out of their shell after this social transition, it may be time to consider the next steps for them. These steps may be:

  1. Hormone blockers: For children who have not quite hit puberty, hormone blockers might be a good option if you and your child are still trying to figure out what the next course of action will be.  They block the hormones which carry out puberty. This delays the growth spurts and development that your child may not want. Hormone blockers are completely reversible. Once your child stops taking them, they will go through puberty as normal.
  2. Cross-sex hormones: If you and your child choose to continue with the transition process, administering hormones from their chosen sex might be the best next step. This will take them one step closer to feeling confident and happy in their own skin. By taking the hormones of the opposite gender, your child will begin to develop as if they are the opposite gender.


The following are some great resources for individuals interested in learning more information about gender identity and gender dysphoria:

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As Executive Director at Trails Carolina, a leading wilderness therapy program for youth and teens, I oversee operations and collaborate with our leadership team. Since 2022, I've also hosted the Common Ground Podcast for parents: With a background in Wilderness Leadership and Experiential Education, I've managed adventure-based therapeutic programs across the US and Canada. My experiences in competitive athletics and adventure sports have honed my leadership, risk assessment, and decision-making skills, which I apply to running a successful business like Trails Carolina.

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